CHAPTER FIVE

WHAT IS BULLYING?

PARENTS’ GUIDE

RULES FOR KIDS

CYBER BULLYING

ANTI-GANGS

Sample of bulling rules for kids

Rules for kids who are targets:

· Tell a friend, Tell a teacher, and Tell your parents.

· Get an older brother, sister or friend to help you.

· Get a group of friends to help you.

· Stay in safe areas at school where there are plenty of other people.   Bullies do not like witnesses.

· Laugh it off, Use Humor, Have a comeback.

· Avoid the bully, walk or run away.

· Offer to help the bully with a subject.

· Ask bully for help on a subject.

· Agree with the bully.

· Use verbal self-defense.

· Ask questions, “Why do you want to hurt my feelings?”

· Ask a witness to report the bully.

· If you are hurt, tell a teacher and ask for it to be written down. Tell your parents.

· If you are scared of being attacked walking home, vary your route, try to leave earlier or later, try to walk with other people who live near you.

· If it is too hard to do in person, write a note to your parents explaining how you feel, or tell someone outside your immediate family, like a grandparent, aunt or uncle and ask them to help you tell your parents.

Rules for kids who often act as bullies:

· Find an adult to talk to about your anger.

· Learn how to calm and handle your anger.

· Ask yourself, “Why am I doing this?”

· Try to stop picking on someone for one day.

· Recognize what you are doing.

· Develop a hobby or skill to help you feel better about yourself.

· Try to get some attention by doing something good.

· Think how you would feel if your were the target.

Rules for Witnesses

· If you see someone else being bullied at your school or neighborhood , please tell someone about it.

· Challenge the Bully.

· Get a group of friends to challenge the bully.

· Include a target in your activities.

· Don’t laugh at the bullies’ put-downs.

· Never join forces with the bully and give them more power.

· Don’t repeat gossip.

· Support a target in private.

· Be a guardian Angel for a target.